Will sleep training with Actually Sleeping hurt our bond?
Parents in this video describe the opposite: happier, well-rested babies, and feeling like better moms, dads and partners once the whole family sleeps. Several say they finally enjoy their baby again. Actually Sleeping is not cry it out. Each plan is written for the baby by Dr. Sam, with bootcamp-style coaching before night one and daily 1:1 check-ins.
What parents who had this worry say
“And for the longest time, I was against it because I had heard awful things, especially online.”
“I actually get to enjoy her amazing little moments again because, again, I am fully rested at this point.”
“What’s the difference between her crying in your arms while you’re trying to rock her to sleep versus her just learning the skill and putting herself to sleep?”
“My son wakes up happy every single morning.”
“Because he just is loving life now and he actually wants to be in bed.”
“I now feel like my husband and I have a better relationship.”
Why parents worry about the bond
Rocking, feeding and holding a baby to sleep can feel like the heart of being a parent. Changing that can feel like stepping away from your baby, and a lot of what parents read online makes it sound worse.
The parents in this video had the same worry. What they describe afterward is more time and energy for the moments they love, because everyone is rested.
How Actually Sleeping approaches it
The plan is not cry it out and not wait it out. Dr. Sam writes it for your baby, and the coaching before night one explains what you do and why, so nothing feels cold or arbitrary. Daily 1:1 check-ins follow, with naps coached until solid. Night feeds are never forced out.
Several parents in this video say the change they notice most is in their baby’s mood: a baby who wakes up happy, wants to be in bed and is, in one mom’s words, as happy as ever. They also describe feeling closer as a couple, and having the energy to enjoy their children. That is what Actually Sleeping families describe, again and again.
Hear more from client families
Watch all 129 client video reviews on the reviews page. For what research says about sleep training and attachment, read does sleep training work: the evidence. You can also check that the company is legit before you book.
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Want this fixed for your baby?
Actually Sleeping is 1:1 coaching: a sleep plan written for your baby by Dr. Sam, bootcamp-style coaching before the first night, and daily check-ins until it is working. 700+ families coached, 129 video reviews, and a written guarantee: 8–12 hours through the night within 14 days, or a full refund.
Frequently asked
Will my baby feel abandoned?
Actually Sleeping is not cry it out and not wait it out. Parents in the reviews describe babies who wake up happy and are glad to go to bed. Dr. Sam’s plan is written for your baby, with coaching before night one so you know how to respond.
Can I still cuddle and rock my baby?
Yes. Families keep their cuddles, feeds and bedtime closeness. What changes is how your baby falls asleep at the end of it, and parents in the reviews say being rested makes those moments better, not fewer.
Do families say it changed their relationships?
Many do. Parents in this video talk about feeling like a better mom or dad, a happier baby, and a better relationship with their partner once everyone was sleeping. They say being rested is what made the difference.