Am I a bad mom for needing help with my baby’s sleep?
No. Parents in this video felt they were doing everything wrong, and some thought a second baby should be easy. Looking back, they say getting help made them better moms, partners and parents. Most families who come to Actually Sleeping have already tried things on their own. Needing a plan written for your baby is not a failure.
What parents who had this worry say
“She is my second baby, so I thought, oh, I should have it all figured out. But each baby is different, and I really needed help.”
“I felt like I just was doing everything wrong.”
“And I couldn’t be the best version of myself or the best mom that I wanted to be because it was making us so miserable.”
“It was the best money I’ve ever spent, because I got to be a better mother.”
“I’m able to be a better mom, a better wife.”
“We are better parents now, because of our sleep.”
Why parents feel guilty asking for help
Many parents believe they should be able to work out their own baby’s sleep. With a second or third baby, the pressure is greater. When nothing works, it is easy to decide the problem is you.
The parents in this video felt that way. One felt she was doing everything wrong. Another was frugal and sure she could figure it out alone. What they describe now is relief.
Why it is not your fault
Every baby is different, and a method that worked for one child, or for a friend’s child, often does not fit the next. That is not a parenting failure. It is why Dr. Sam writes each Actually Sleeping plan for one baby: age, feeding, temperament, how they fall asleep now and how your days run. Bootcamp-style coaching before night one prepares you completely, daily 1:1 check-ins follow, and naps are coached until solid. It is not cry it out and not wait it out.
Parents here describe what changed once they slept: more patience, being the mom they wanted to be, and a husband who feels like a better dad. Actually Sleeping has coached 700+ families, and most of them had tried things on their own first.
Hear more from client families
Watch all 129 client video reviews on the reviews page. For signs it is time to bring in help, read when to hire a sleep consultant. You can also check that the company is legit before you book.
Book the free consultation. Asking for help is how the families in this video got their nights back.
Want this fixed for your baby?
Actually Sleeping is 1:1 coaching: a sleep plan written for your baby by Dr. Sam, bootcamp-style coaching before the first night, and daily check-ins until it is working. 700+ families coached, 129 video reviews, and a written guarantee: 8–12 hours through the night within 14 days, or a full refund.
Frequently asked
Is it normal to need help with baby sleep?
Yes. Most families who come to Actually Sleeping have already tried things on their own, including parents of second and third babies. Each baby is different, which is why Dr. Sam writes a plan for your baby rather than handing you a generic method.
I feel like I am doing everything wrong. Where do I start?
Start with the free consultation. Tell us how your baby falls asleep now, how nights go and what you have tried. Several parents in this video felt the same way, and describe feeling like better parents once everyone was sleeping.
What if I feel low or overwhelmed?
Many parents in the reviews describe feeling miserable and exhausted before they started. If you are worried about your mood or your health, talk to your doctor. Actually Sleeping works on the sleep itself, with a plan written for your baby and daily 1:1 support.