Does Actually Sleeping use cry it out?
No. Actually Sleeping is not cry it out and not wait it out. Parents in this video who were scared of tears describe how much crying there actually was, and how quickly it faded, often to minutes or none within days. Every plan is written for the baby by Dr. Sam, with bootcamp-style coaching before night one and daily 1:1 check-ins.
What parents who had this worry say
“I was really worried about the tears. I didn’t want her crying too much. And, honestly, the tears were so minimal night one.”
“Husband and I are super anti cry it out method. This is not what this is. It’s very strategic. It is planned.”
“But to be honest, it wasn’t even bad. I prepared myself for so much worse.”
“Through the first night, Cadence took, like, eighteen minutes to go to sleep. After that, it was, like, five minutes.”
“Went down tonight with minimal tears. We’re ten days in.”
“But the amount of crying in this program is very minimal.”
Why parents fear the tears
For many parents, sleep training means one picture: a baby left alone to cry for as long as it takes. If that is what you have heard, it makes sense to rule it out.
The parents in this video were in that place, and some describe themselves as strongly against cry it out. What they describe is different: some protest at first, a plan that told them what to do at each moment, and crying that dropped quickly.
What Actually Sleeping does instead
Dr. Sam writes a plan for your baby, with bootcamp-style coaching before night one, so you know exactly how to respond and why. Daily 1:1 check-ins follow, and the plan is adjusted to how your baby is responding. Naps are coached until solid. The result is guaranteed in writing: “We guarantee that your baby will sleep 8–12 hours through the night within 14 days of consistent, correct implementation of your sleep plan.”
Parents are honest that the first night can be the hardest. What they describe after that is crying measured in minutes, then little or none. One mom who calls herself strongly against cry it out says Actually Sleeping is not that: it is strategic and planned.
Hear more from client families
Watch all 129 client video reviews on the reviews page. For how consultants differ on crying, read do sleep consultants use cry it out. You can also check that the company is legit before you book.
If tears are your biggest worry, say so on the free consultation. We will explain exactly how a plan for your baby handles them.
Want this fixed for your baby?
Actually Sleeping is 1:1 coaching: a sleep plan written for your baby by Dr. Sam, bootcamp-style coaching before the first night, and daily check-ins until it is working. 700+ families coached, 129 video reviews, and a written guarantee: 8–12 hours through the night within 14 days, or a full refund.
Frequently asked
Will my baby cry at all?
Some protest is normal when a baby learns a new way to fall asleep, and parents in the reviews are honest about that. They also describe how minimal it was and how quickly it faded, often to a few minutes or none within days.
Will I be told to leave my baby alone to cry?
No. Actually Sleeping is not cry it out and not wait it out. Dr. Sam writes a plan for your baby, and the coaching before night one covers how you respond at every point, so you are never left guessing.
What if my baby is a big crier?
Dr. Sam writes the plan for your baby’s temperament, and daily 1:1 check-ins adjust it based on how your baby responds. Parents in this video expected much worse than what happened.